If you’re a single fella, I’m talking to you. If you’re a girl, SHARE THIS WITH YOUR GUY FRIENDS.
Guys, I’ve got a short rant for you. Please, stay seated. Please, read on. I’m trying to help you find a godly wife!
I have a lot of wonderful godly girlfriends who deserve THE BEST. Now the tough question: what are you doing to pursue them?
What are you doing to be the man of God you’re called to be? What are you doing to confront your addictions and bad habits? When are you going to deal with your past? When are you going to move on from your ex-girfriend? How are you healing? How are you growing?
I know you’re not all like this, and I’m not trying to stomp on men. But why-oh-why do most guys not pursue girls (or at the very least, the RIGHT girls)? Why do those of you who do pursue the right girls not gather all your friends who aren’t pursuing girls (or the right girls) and teach them a thing or two about pursuing girls?
I get that girls aren’t perfect. We have a lot to work on, too. We’ve got Daddy issues. Control issues. Our own self-esteem issues. We’re just as broken, scared and scarred as you. And it’s definitely not your job to fix us. I get that. But I’m not talking to girls right now. I’m talking to YOU. So let’s focus on you and stop playing the blame game.
Fellas, you’re supposed to be the LEADER. I know real life isn’t all Disney princesses and happily-ever-afters, but c’mon. You’ve got something special, and it seems a little sparse out there from my view. If you’ve read this far, I know you’re probably a good guy who wants to do the right thing, live the right way and honor Jesus. So what’s stopping you? Life is tough, I know. And temptation is very ugly and very real.
But do you even know what you’re supposed to be looking for?
Do you know what kind of woman you need to pursue? It’s not about getting the prettiest girl. It’s not about getting the girl who will sleep with you. It’s not even about getting the girl who just uses you and treats you like a slave, then forgets about you and moves on.
If you truly want to follow God’s blueprint for a good wife, find and pursue godly women. Pursue the women who:
- Seek and serve God first—then all the things Proverbs talks about when referring to a godly woman will follow, like a girl who speaks wisdom and kindness, who exudes humility and grace.
Trust me, they’re out there. And they may not all be perfect (I’m still trying to master this whole humility thing), but they’re trying their hardest to WAIT FOR YOU. They’re struggling to be patient with God and work on their relationship with Him. They’re working to better themselves so that they’ll be everything you’ve dreamed of–or didn’t realize you could obtain.
“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” – Proverbs 31:10
Fellas, you want to know how go get the girl of your dreams? Don’t wait to get your life together any longer. Get your life together now. Put Jesus first and pursue Him. Just start now. Make the changes. Be the man you are called to be.
My husband “got” me because he had to go through Jesus to get to me. And that’s the way God intended for it to be.
Despite what you think of yourself or what you’ve done in your past, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. YOU DESERVE A WONDERFUL WOMAN OF GOD.
Like I said, I know a plethora of godly women. They’re pretty wonderful. And they’re working hard to be excellent wives. How cool is it to think that SHE IS OUT THERE? Your woman! Someone God made especially for you? And she’s waiting for you to find her. To pursue her. To woo her.
Love her now, by working on yourself.
Then hop to it, for the love! And quit being VAGUE and just ASK HER OUT.
Then treat her with respect, keep Jesus at the center and buy her ice cream and a DIAMOND.
That is all. ;)